Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Right Now: A Life List

WEATHER This week is going to be fantastic! We've got numbers in the low 70's every day through Sunday.   PONDERING I traveled to Portland, Oregon by myself last weekend. I enjoyed the 200 miles each way, listening to whatever I wanted, letting thoughts flow through my brain like a ticker tape parade. Much needed "artist date" with myself. I stopped to snap photos along the way. (see below) I'm excited about the weekend coming. I'll be out photo walking with my friend and have two photo shoots set. Also, an artist friend has a showing on Friday night called The Dead Show ... can't wait! WATCHING I haven't had the tv on for probably a week. However, I am still watching episodes of Atypical on Netflix. It's really good! Went to see A Star is Born while I was in Portland over the weekend. Loved it. Lady Gaga is a great actor ... I'll bet we see more of her. READING I have not been reading lately since I've got audible. I've been doing a lot more journaling in my spare morning time. I just finished filling up the beautiful journal my step daughter gave me for Christmas last year. Ohhhhhh, the paper is heaven under my Precise V5 purple pen. It makes me want to keep writing and writing. A FINAL THOUGHT I recently had an epiphany. I have seasonal affective disorder and it hit earlier than usual this year. I have decided to embrace it rather than constantly fighting it. For me, this means acceptance. I know it will pass. I can slow down and just quit stressing about it. It's okay if I come home from work and put my pajamas on at 5:30pm. Gotta go for now. Hope you have a great week, wherever you are.  love, susan
 




 

Tuesday, October 9, 2018

Currently: A Life List

PONDERING I am over the last two weeks of drama coming from Washington DC. It left me drained and feeling powerless. I am not powerless, though. I can vote. I can encourage others to get out and vote. I am, nonetheless, surprised by the end result of Brett Kavanaugh's confirmation. Sure hope it works out.

WATCHING I have been watching a series on Netflix called Atypical. It is really good and I am invested in seeing it through to the end. My step-daughter told me about it. I trust her judgment, we like the same types of series.

READING I am still reading Kitchen Confidential (only 38% done with it) by Anthony Bourdain. I started it sometime during the summer and then got sidetracked in early July when my daughter-in-law showed me how to put podcasts on my smart phone. Then my step-mom told me the virtues of Audible and I have been hooked on that ever since. I do enjoy reading very much. There seems to be always be too little time for all of it. Anyway, the weather is changing now so I'll spend more time in my easy chair, curled up in my jammies and a blanket and a dog on my lap.

CREATING I've been coloring in my adult coloring book while listening to podcasts and books on audible. There is something so relaxing about that.

LEARNING Oh. This last two weeks has taught me that it's still a man's world.

PLANNING I don't have much going on in the planning department. My son asked me when I'm going to go visit them in Colorado, so that now is on my radar for the summer. I'm really now in pre-retirement count down. I have less then 8 months to go.

LISTENING My favorite podcasts are The Daily and NPR's Up First. Both are short episodes during the work week that give me just the right amount of news. On Audible, I am listening to The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver, and Uncommon Type: Some Stories by Tom Hanks, narrated by Tom Hanks. Last week, I listened to The Year of Less by Cait Flanders.

WHAT'S IN THE KITCHEN I've been not all that creative in the kitchen but that's about to change. I am going to order one of those air fryers. A friend has been posting food she prepares in it and it looks like my kind of good.

A QUOTE TO SHARE
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving. - Albert Einstein






A FINAL THOUGHT I'm just trying to keep my head about water right now. Going into winter season is not my favorite time of year but there are good things about it. I love slowing down a bit. I love soup. I love all the upcoming days off for the holidays. Yeah. It's all good.

love, susan

Friday, October 5, 2018

Random Positivity


This is in the parking lot at work. Colors are changing.
Happy Friday. This has been the longest week I've had in awhile. While big things are happening in Washington D.C., I'm over here in Eastern Washington just trying to remain positive. You may not know this, but I have a photo album on my FB called Susan Goes Outdoors. I started it last fall and the premise is that it helps me get out of the office every work day to take a photo and post there. As I look back on the album, it is amazing. These photos are from random things in my life this week. I hope wherever you are that you'll take time to stop and see the beauty around you. Taking photos gives me a sixth sense. love, susan
My friend's dog, Tank.



This was taken back when we only had one dog (2010?) on a camping trip.


One of my lunches this week.


A Lamborghini I saw on my lunch hour yesterday.
I know the guy who owns this one. He has a collection
of expensive cars.

Monday, October 1, 2018

Currently: October Already?

We enjoyed laying around on Sunday funday. The hubs and I drove to The Dalles, Oregon to meet up with our daughter.  I went to the dog show early in the morning to take some photos and get out of the house for a minute. I went outdoors to see what's happening in my back yard and cut down a few things that need to be cleaned up. I've got some oven fried potatoes going in the oven and when they're done in a few minutes, I'll cook some eggs to go with them for an afternoon brunch.

 
I'm trying real hard to keep my chin up. Some people think we ought to just ignore the news and not talk about politics. Yeah, no. But, I will take a break from it. I can't unhear what has been said to date.
 
Today, I think I'll try to only watch the news when I get home from work. Maybe I'll start my day with something creative. I'll talk about the weather. Throw the ball to my dog. Make a good lunch. I'll try to have a normal life while one of the biggest decisions regarding our Supreme Court lingers. I have to get some normalcy in my life right now because the current events have unraveled my psyche. I cannot pretend it hasn't.
 
love, susan
 
 
 
 

Saturday, September 29, 2018

Dear Trolls, Let's Look at the Facts and Believe Her

Today I am leaving you with a guest post written by my daughter-in-law, Dr. Smith. You can find her at Smith Happens. She responds with this post after my disclosure on Monday. I want to thank her for this thoughtfully researched piece. My greatest hope is that it won't fall on deaf ears.
 
Today, my beautiful, amazing, compassionate mother-in-law disclosed that she was sexually assaulted when she was a teenager. She did this in the context of the #metoo movement and the currently trending #BelieveHer discussion that is ongoing about Dr. Christine Blasey Ford accusing Supreme Court Nominee Brett Kavanaugh of sexually assaulting her in their teens. After writing her blog post, my MIL shared it on her Facebook page. Evidently, she knows some beautiful people and some trolls. 

Today, I’m writing to the trolls.

Before I go too far, I want to disclose a few things. I am a white, cis-gendered woman who holds a PhD in sociology with an emphasis on criminology. My research looks at how social institutions create the environment necessary for high crime rates in the United States. As a result, I know a great deal about why people do and do not report crime as well as the cultural structures that make crime possible. Given my possession of a vagina and higher education, I know that some of the readers of this are likely to question my credibility. 

In what follows, I first talk about how we know what we know about the reporting of rape and sexual assault, the myth of false accusations, and why these matter.

How We Know What We Know About Rape and Sexual Assault

There are two primary ways that crime is measured in the United States – the FBI’s Uniform Crime Reports (UCR) and the National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS). You can read more about both of these measures here (https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/ntcm_2014.pdf). While the UCR only measures crimes known to the police, the NCVS measures both crimes known and unknown to police because respondents of the survey are directly asked if they reported their victimization. I’ll limit this discussion to reporting of rape and sexual assault victimizations.

Below is a table that shows the number of rape and sexual assault victimizations reported by the NCVS from 2012 to 2016. As you can see, most rape and sexual assault victimizations are not reported to the police. If you crunch the numbers, in 2016, only 22.9 percent of rape and sexual assault victimizations were reported. Over the five years, the average percentage of rape or sexual assault victimizations reported to police is 30.4. 

  20122013201420152016
Rape/Sexual Assault 346,830300,165284,345431,837323,449
 Yes, reported to the police97,925104,55695,420140,33174,075
 No, did not report to the police246,751188,154182,391286,681249,373
 Do not know2,154 -- ---- --4,824 -- --

In comparison to other violent victimizations, rape and sexual assault are reported much less frequently. For example, in 2015, approximately 47 percent of violent victimizations (this includes rape and sexual assault) were reported to police. In contrast, only 32.5 percent of rape and sexual assault victimizations were reported that year (https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/cv15.pdf). Overall, most violent victimizations are NOT reported to the police and, in particular, rape and sexual assault victimizations are NOT reported to the police.
But why are these victimizations not reported? The NCVS can tell us a bit about that as well. Between 2006 and 2010 (the most recent report available – (https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/vnrp0610.pdf), 65 percent of rape and sexual assault victimizations were not reported to the police. Twenty-eight percent of the NCVS respondents who were raped or sexually assaulted stated that they did not report the victimization to the police because of “fear of reprisal or getting the offender in trouble,” 20 percent did not report the victimization because they “dealt with it in another way or that it was a personal matter,” 13 percent did not report the victimization because the “police would not or could not help.”

So, we want to blame women for not reporting rape or sexual assault victimizations, yet we ignore the reality that for many the choice to not report is informed by what they know of our culture. They are unlikely to be believed (especially if the victimization does not conform to culturally held rape myths), reporting may actually lead to additional victimization (most rapists are known to their victims), and even if they do report the track record of the criminal justice system in handling cases of acquaintance rape (i.e., non-stranger rape) is abysmal (see: the bevy of news articles about Brock Turner’s case). 

But What about False Reporting?

Really?! This is what you’re concerned about. Well, let’s dive into what we (as criminologists – the people who study these issues) know. The current research shows us that approximately 2-10 percent of reported rape cases are unfounded. Let’s turn this on its head: 90 to 98% of rape cases reported to police ARE credible! (You can read more here: http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1077801210387750). Moreover, those who do falsely report DO NOT name a suspect and their stories conform to most rape myths (e.g., stranger rape, quick reporting, lack of alcohol/drug use, etc.). That being said, with the percentage of rape and sexual assaults reported to police as low as it is – for all of the reasons previously stated – it would behoove the police to treat and investigate all allegations as credible. 

Bringing It Back Around…

Now that we have covered what we know about the nature of rape and sexual assault victimization, lack of reporting to the police and the reasons for not reporting, and dispensed with the nonsense of false reporting, it is appalling that people are up in arms about the allegations against Kavanaugh. Dr. Ford has repeatedly asked for an investigation into her accusations. She has not wanted to try this case in the court of public opinion. In fact, she reported the accusations anonymously at first because she thought it was her duty to inform those in charge of ensuring the sanctity and credibility of the U.S. Supreme Court of possible concerns with the potential newest member. 

Are Dr. Ford’s (and the other women’s) accusations credible? Yes! Should they be investigated? Yes!

Lastly, the vitriol that I have seen thrown at Dr. Ford in the Facebook comments on my MIL’s post is atrocious. Let’s remember the following: She is a person. While she is a woman, stating “that woman” in reference to her is repugnant because it assumes that she is somehow less credible due to her possession of a vagina. Further, Dr. Ford is a tenured professor of psychology. She has spent decades learning, teaching, and researching her subject matter. She is an expert in her field. Referring to her as “Ms. Ford” is an insult that again attacks her credibility. She knew the risks of reporting her accusations and going public but decided that the consequences of not reporting would be greater.

 

Wednesday, September 26, 2018

I Believe Her

If you haven't heard of the controversy this last 10 days over Christine Blasey Ford's claim that she was sexually assaulted by Judge Brett Kavanaugh, you probably aren't even reading this blog. It's big news.
 
Guess what? What she is claiming happened to me in high school. I never told another soul about it until this week when I told the hubs about it. I believe Christine Blasey Ford. I believe her.
 
I am writing this today because I can.  I am far removed from that place and time where it took place. I do not wish to harm anyone by the disclosure. As a matter of fact, I don't even feel harmed by it. But Christine Blasey Ford feels harmed. It clearly affected her enough that she went to therapy over it. That is not my experience.
 
I blame myself for being in a position to be harmed. Much like her claim, I had been drinking. I ended up in a vehicle with him, down the road away from people, and I was assaulted. It was sobering. I never talked about it to anyone but you can bet your life savings I never again put myself alone in the same place with that person. That doesn't mean I wasn't assault again ... just not by that person. I have forgotten a lot of things in my nearly 60 years but the memory of that experience is crystal clear. I'll save you from the details.
 
Back in the day, we didn't talk about sexual assault. It was not part of  conversation any of us ever had. Ever. Never ever. The fact that it is at the front and center of everything now is not a bad thing. I'm sure there are lots of men squirming in their seats right now, waiting to be outed. I don't relish that idea. I am a firm believer that when we know better, we do better. We can do better.
 
We can do better. We can keep this conversation going. But, please spare me the victim blaming.
 
love, susan

Sunday, September 23, 2018

Sunday Drive: Nothing But Blue Skies and Sunshine

Got this at Love's Truck Stop
The coffee was terrible.
 We took our Sunday Drive with one destination in mind and ended up in a totally different place. That's how we roll. Because we're going to meet up with our daughter for next weekend's drive, we tried to not go that direction but did anyway. This time of year, it's hard to stay away from the river. The different shades of blue are hard to resist. So, our plan was to drive to Condon, Oregon but we ended up turning off to get gas and the hubs wanted to drive down a road he has always been curious about. There is a coal fired electric plant that he had wanted to work on back in the day but never did. Can you say boring? I should have been a good wife and taken a photo for him but it was gray and ugly. We had to turn around because there were scary signs that made us feel unwelcomed. We decided that we'd drive to Walla Walla, the long way along the river. We stopped at a historic site and climbed a little hill to eat the picnic lunch I brought along. We never made it to Walla Walla and I'm glad because I needed to come home and take a nap. I've been under the weather this last week and everything seems to wear me out. Next weekend, we're driving to The Dalles, Oregon to meet up with our peeps at a favorite Thai restaurant. I love having things to look forward to. How about you? Did you take a Sunday drive today? love, susan

This is at rest stop. Moo.

We luvs picnic lunches together.
 

I was here last weekend with my photo buddy. Beautiful spot.

Not a very attractive selfie.


Saturday, September 22, 2018

September Grocery Challenge: Total Spent to Date $255.35

One more week of the grocery challenge ... and I'm feeling okay about it. I am over my $200 budget but I'm okay with that. I've learned a few things this month that will help me going into next month. I am hoping my daughter-in-law will stick with me for another month of this challenge.  CANNED GOODS Last week, I pulled all my canned goods out of the cupboards and I left them on the counter. It helped a lot to have the cans there staring at me, looking for inspiration. There are now fewer cans remaining because I made a big slow cooker of chicken tortilla soup Monday morning. I dumped several cans of stewed tomatoes along with two cans of different beans (white beans and black beans). I added the half-bag of frozen chicken breasts left over from when our visitors were hear earlier in the month. A couple tablespoons of taco seasoning, chili powder, and cumin made for lovely lunches/dinners for us this week. It tasted extra good knowing I had used all things I already had on hand. I'm a vegetarian but my husband is not so it worked for both of us. I also used up one large can of pineapple by chopping up 2 slices to put in our morning oatmeal power bowls. The 2nd can of pineapple is opened and in a container which will get me thru the weekend of using up that huge container of 2% cottage cheese I bought two weeks ago. I'm almost done with it, thank goodness. I won't be buying that again.  STAR OF THE SHOW The things that made the angels sing this morning at the store were the Bartlett pears. I love this time of year for the change in produce. I'd truly rather have a pear than a candy bar. These lovelies were .40 each. Please don't tell me it costs more to eat well. I will prove you wrong. Grapes are a GREAT deal right now at $1.68/lb. I have them in my basket every week at this price. As much as I love grapes, I will not pay $2.98/lb. when the season passes. Can't do it. Which brings me to thee photo I snapped of the beautiful mangos at $1.48 each. I do love mangos but on a real budget they are not a reality for me. I have a bag of substandard frozen ones in the freezer that will have to do. I also spotted pomegranates but forgot to snap a photo. They are always priced outrageously and it brought back memories of childhood. Mom would buy us one pomegranate as a treat during the season. OMG, it truly was a treat. They are just not a good bargain, that's all.  POTATOES ARE MY JAM As I write this, I have oven fried potatoes in the oven. These are from a 5 lb. bag I bought last week. I've discovered we can get 3 breakfasts from that bag. Dude, that bag was $1.28! We're going to enjoy 2 eggs and salsa with these today.  PUMPKIN TIME! So, I asked my daughter-in-law to help me figure out what to do with the two cans of pumpkin I pulled out of the cupboard. She sent me a recipe that calls for almond nut butter and oats. Although it calls for very expensive almond butter, I'm going to replace that with the fresh ground peanut butter I bought today and also substitute the quinoa flakes with some flax seed. The hubs loves what I call power balls. Great way to use the pumpkin and these are also something I can give to the dogs for treats as well. WASTE NOT WANT NOT THIS WEEK I'm going to open up that can of kidney beans and add those to the top of my salads. I am not a fan of kidney beans but I want to use what I have and I'll get past my pickiness. Waste not want not. WANNA JOIN US? How are your budgeting skills? Can you give me any tips on how I can do this better? Leave me a comment. I love hearing from you. love, susan
 
 from the internet:
The expression waste not, want not means that if you do not use too much of something now you will have some left later when you need it.
...a nation that prides itself on its 'waste not, want not' thrift.
 
 
 
 







Wednesday, September 19, 2018

10 Things I Would Do If I Didn't Blankity Blank Blank Work

Thank you for Mama's Losin' It for the prompt this week. This is a topic that is on my mind every single day of my work life and has been for awhile since I am now in the countdown phase to retirement. So much so that I've become obsessed and a bit irritable about it. Oh, Mama, you have unleashed me with this writing prompt.  Let me tell you what I'll do when I'm not blankity blank blank working, complete with photos!
 
PULL THE BLANKITY BLANK BLANK WEEDS  See these weeds? I walk past them every single day and think I should pull those weeds. But who got time for that when you are already behind and you're gonna have to break laws to get to work on time. "Officer, I had to pull weeds and it made me late."
 
 
 
WASH MY BLANKITY  BLANK BLANK CAR  My son gave me this beautiful car last year. He and his lovely wife drove it all the way from Michigan and it was sparkling clean inside and out. Full disclosure:  I have yet to take a vacuum to the inside since it arrive. I do give it a bath as often as time allows but if I wasn't working, no bug would lay dead on it for more than overnight. I'll even wash the inside windows. It will be spotless.
 
WALK MY BLANKITY BLANK BLANK DOGS EVERY DAY 
My poor dogs that I saved from a life in the shelter are barely better off at my house. I do play with them some on the weekends but I feel guilty on a regular basis for not having more time to spend with them. I am retiring in about 8 months and they will benefit from it greatly. They just need to hang in there a little longer. The two big ones are getting up there in age. That little one sitting next to me cannot be worn down so she may be a full time job without pay. I can hardly wait! Bonus: They'll get brushed on a regular basis.
 
 
FIGURE OUT HOW TO USE MY BLANKITY BLANK BLANK  PHONE
I got this new phone a couple months ago and I can't tell you how many times I've taken selfies accidentally. I'm not a selfie kind of girl. There are so many apps people tell me about and I just want to spend a whole day exploring how to do things without the constraint of time.
 
LEARN HOW TO COOK PHO
How blankity blank blank hard can it be to heat up broth and throw noodles in with a few veggies? I love this popular dish and would like to make in the comfort of my own home. I'll Google it!
 
 
SIT IN A COFFEE SHOP FOR HOURS AND READ THE NEWSPAPER The few times I have been able to sit in my favorite local coffee spot, I am so blankity blank blank envious of the people who seem to have nothing else on their life agenda but to sit casually, sipping on their go juice and surfing the net or talking smack about some thing or another. I wanna sit in the nice cushy corner chair, sip my coffee and maybe ask for a refill and surf the internet on my barely used tablet. I want my barista to know my name. Oh, hey Susan, how ya doing?
 
 
TAKE A PICNIC TO THE PARK I want to take my hubs to the park with a picnic lunch to sit and watch squirrels play for however long it takes to get tired of it. No time limits. If I want to sit there all day and read a book, I'll do it.
 
 
COLOR ALL BLANKITY BLANK BLANK DAY IF I WANT TO I love my adult coloring book and dream of the days that I can color a whole page without the constant impending feeling that I can only do for 15 minutes before I move on the next "timed" event in my life. I am so tired of being on the clock. I have been working since I was a teenager and my time has never been my own. I have a feeling I have some adjusting to do. I have thought a lot about it in the last year. Bonus: I'll write more hand-written letters to friends!
 
 
 
 
WALK UP & DOWN THE BLANKITY BLANK  AISLES WITH WRECKLESS ABANDON When I'm not working, I want to take the time to look at everything at the grocery store. Right now, my goal is to get it and get out as quickly as possible. I hate shopping. It's something I have to squeeze in on the precious time I have off. I want to slow down and really see what's there. Someone at work told me about a product the other day that I've never seen at the store because I'm so focused on a quick escape.
 
 
 
WRITE
 
I
am
going
to
write.
 

Monday, September 17, 2018

Sunday Drives: New Ideas

Yesterday was a Sunday drive kind of day. I started early with a photo walking friend at 7am.  She and I drove out to Hermiston and shot some images along the way. Then, the hubs and I drove back out to Hermiston, Oregon, which is a 35 mile drive, in late afternoon to do a little shopping at Goodwill and eat at our favorite Thai place. The weather is perfect for Sunday drives in September/October. You can expect more about those drives in the coming weeks. I feel a creative spurt coming on ... new ideas ... old ideas with a new twist ... you know ... change.
 
love, susan
This seemed to be the favorite pic from my series yesterday. The Snake River.
 
I loved this painting on the wall at Thai place.


You really should try tofu in your Thai dishes just once.


I love a good cup of hot, steaming green tea but
I especially love it when it comes in a cute cup. And,
I totally dig that tea pot!
Clementine has been the best thing that's happened to me since I sold my motorcycle.



Sunrise on the canal in Finley, Washington

You Made My Day, Dude!

A couple weeks ago while I was driving back to Portland after spending the night on the Oregon coast, we came up on some road construction ...