13 12th Anniversary to my honey bunny. This is the honest truth ... I have to get our marriage certificate out every year so I can verify the correct year of our wedding. It's crazy, I know. There was a lot going on back then and we were having so much fun that getting married was simply a formality. It was a spur of the moment decision to seal the deal on a weekend we were heading to Laughlin, Nevada for a big round-up with a couple hundred like-minded friends. I was super excited about the weekend plans and sometime about a week before the event, he popped the question: hey, ya wanna get married while we're in Nevada? Super romantic, right? That's how he rolls and I've been rolling with him ever since. For documentation's sake, I said yes but I warned him that if it got the tiniest bit complicated, we would be putting it off until we got back from Nevada. I don't do complicated. It wasn't. We did. And, we're still doing this marriage the best way we know how ... one day at a time.
I woke up thinking about this last twelve years. Here is what I've learned from my side of the street. This is what has worked for us. Take what you want and leave the rest:
- Marriage shouldn't be hard.
- This relationship comes first. I love my friends but he's number one.
- We try hard to not criticize each other.
- Pay attention to physical stuff. We're getting older. Take care and tend to each other. Attend doctor appointments together.
- We try not be crazy on the same day.
- Have your own interests.
- A lot can change in 24 hours. Sleep on it ... whatever it is.
- Know your limits. Know their limits.
- Be flexible.
- Be kind.
- Be forgiving.
- Be yourself.
I heard an old favorite song from the 80's on the radio this morning by INXS called "Need You Tonight" ... I've got to let you know, you're one of my kind. Nothing has been truer in my life so far. Raising my coffee cup to you, husband of mine, father and grandfather, friend and keeper of our fur kids. I adore you more than I can ever say. love, susan